Friday, April 11, 2008

Children These Days......

An essay on the observation of the growing problem of child misbehavior and the part we all play.

Kids nowadays don't respect their elders.
These few but exact words say a great deal about the relationship between younger and older generations. Many (though not all) modern day children don't seem to know how to behave in the presence of older generations, at least that is how older generations see things. The elders (older generations) believe that children today are just plain bad. Kids are disobedient, disrespectful, and unintelligent in the present society. In the elder's opinion, it is the fault of the children themselves for their deportation toward life and its components. With this in mind, is it really the fault of the children or the fault of their parents for the child's attitude towards life and its components? Is it nurture or nature?

According to the University of Wisconsin's Centers for Actions survey of 37,339 youths, 97.0% are worried about getting good grades. When confronted, most of those surveyed stated that their parent's attitude towards schooling played the largest factor in their own commitment to their education. In most cases, parents have done well at influencing their children to strive for better grades. However, no matter how hard one tries, there can only be one top of the class.

If more parents stepped up and became the bigger person, I'm certain their teen would accompany them to the top; I know that today's teens do not like to be outdone. Unfortunately, kids have infrequent contact with grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins - even their own parents: A recent Gallup poll showed that teens today have contact with adults outside of school for an average of only 7 minutes each day! Many of today's young people are growing up primarily influenced by their peers rather than adults.

Make certain that your child gets enough positive attention - lead by example. Studies have shown that the opposite can and does have a negative impact on a child's self-confidence. Additionally, if children always have what it is that they want, what does this teach them about the world? Parents with children with behavior problem often say that's just the way kids are today. Yes, that is correct, but that doesn't make it right.

There is no book on how to parent a kid and if there was, it could never be completely accurate to every circumstance. The children of today to have less adult influence than children a decade ago. Sadly, very few adult role models are present for children to live up to. What a children need is a role model to follow and not a drill instructor. Children crave a foundation and structure. The question is who is willing to step up to the plate if they have a child who yearns for direction and requires the right combination of love and discipline?

Just a thought...


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